Genuine Personality

How do you define a genuine Person?

What is your set of definition for a genuine person?

Why people cheat ?

and Why genuine person is so hard to find ?

Honesty according to me is one of the trait which goes a long way to define genuinity of a person. Many people have a habit of speaking lies without solid reason. They are just in habit of speaking lies. Any uncomfortable situation and they try to get along it using a lie.

Moulding facts -- i say this is also one type of lie only. Somebody said that you can bend a law .. that way you can get your way and not break it also. When you say something it carries meaning; but it also depends upon the way in which you speak it. A person who is not genuine would use this subjective thing to his own advantage. He bends the truth but not break it. He is more dangerous than a person who is not honest.

Hiding Facts -- Some people just not say facts or truths. Everybody hides bits and pieces of information. But exactly there lies the difference, if somebody hides a piece of information which on moral ground should be shared with another one then the person hiding the information is wrong.

This is how i understand the meaning of a genuine person. What about you ?? Please comment.

It is understood that different people have different definitions of Genuinity. But i guess is one underlying fact governing everything. "INTENTIONS".

Why people cheat? -- Somehow i have (inversely ) related the two words genuine and cheating. People cheat because they are jealous. They are jealous of others people "Wealth" "Intelligence" and want to have more and more of anything. These are the main reasons which pushes us across the border which separates Cheaters with Genuine persons.

It is very difficult to make a person genuine if he is not. These traits are deep inside a persons heart. He will do anything to show that he is good and can go to any extent to cover his wrong doings. In worst case he does not count what he has done as wrong.

Cheating backstabbing and other information asymmetries are shortcuts for success. Honestly , in today's world these things are working and that is a worrying factor. Everybody wants to be successful and that is why increasingly large number of people are adopting this way of life.

Success achieved in this manner is short lived. This is not the real success. Real success is the one which gives you happiness.

Peace of Mind gives you real happiness and only a genuine person can experience peace of mind.

Desperate Attempt

Thank you experiment has taken a back seat and i was feeling the pressure of rediscovering the joy of having a THANK YOU a day.

It was a normal day , being late for the office and as usual, i forgot to iron the shirt and was looking at shirt again and again. Thank You experiment was on my mind and today i was determined to put a real extra effort. While crossing Noida i had brilliant idea. I see people taking lifts near Toll Bridge for 10Rs to cross the bridge or reach Medical. Being smart i knew if i offer lift without the money , it would definitely earn a Thank you. And then it happened so fast that i don't know. I was at the bus stop slowing down my car and looking for anybody whom i can offer lift. As soon as i found one i found another one with a uniform. Later i had to part away with a good fine and in return i got a THANK YOU.

At last i had had my thank you for the day.

Update on "Thank You" Part 3

 Well good days are over. After the tightening the conditions it is now very difficult to find a "Thank You". Things are very grim, even when i say "Thank You" to somebody my heart starts racing. 

 After an easy set of days , finding a "Thank You" is now really difficult.

 Will be sharing with you some interesting and wicked tricks that are going through my mind to find a thank you after a few days when i implement them. Keep Tracking.

Upadate on "Thank You" (2) -- Road Rash

Road rash is a reality in Delhi. I drive 100 Km a day. Yes i am an idiot and homesick person who travels 50 Km to office everyday. Driving in NCR--Delhi is a whole different experience. While driving i was thinking about the Thank You experiment. Can i gain my "Thank You" while driving ? While driving through a small crowded stretch i saw a couple ( mid aged) trying to cross the road. While every car was passing through i stopped and let them cross the road, making the whole traffic stop behind me. They crossed the road and passed me a courtesy smile. I will take it as my "Thank You" for the day.

All Smiles.

Update on Thank You ( 1 )

Well three days have gone by and i didnt face any particular difficulty in attracting any "Thank You". Few of the instances which drew easy thank you includes receiving Posts from courier. Ending a telephonic talk. Even buying stuff from a shop.

Well all these are day to day activities and are now making things very simple for me to complete the task. Even on the last day i forgot about the experiment and when i try to recollect i rembered quite a few instances where people have said "THANK YOU".

It is such a common word that you face it again and again.

Lets try to make this experiment worth trying for and somewhat difficult.
Condition 1:-- Telephonic casual "THANK YOU " wont count.
Condition 2:-- "Thank You" from Shops will not be counted.

Any other Casual Thank You wont be counted.

Lets try how it works out.

Thank You

My cousin introduced me with a new idea which got me interested. Try your level best to attract atleast one "Thank You" a day. Sounds interesting isnt it. Let me try it out , he says it is very difficult to follow or attract a "Thank You" a day. I disagree. Lets see how i do. I will keep you guys updated with my experiances.

Dream and Reality

Have you ever thought; if given an option to go back 3 years in your life and re-live those three years would you take it?

Well I have. My reaction was definitely YES!!

Given an option to go back 3 years in your life and correct the mistakes you would have done; I would say YES please give me.

Given an option to go back 3 years in your life and re-live the moments of early adulthood; I would say definitely YES.

Somehow yesterday this strange feeling has turned me inside out.

It was late night I was in bed. I don't know whether I was thinking or dreaming. Must been dreaming. I was thinking about how I carried myself in the last three years, mistakes that I have done in last three years, how I screwed up my professional life. How can I improve myself going ahead in all the departments (Profession, Personal Relationship etc). Suddenly it felt that I was dreaming about future. I saw myself working in a reputed company in highly intellectual field; have good relationships with all my friends; pursuing my hobbies successfully. It was a rosy picture about future, I was excited about the challenges then, I was excited about the prospect of living that life. Suddenly I woke up to the reality, I am about to get out of college standing there with whole of my life in front of me. I was taken aback. Damn it why? WHY? I want to live in that world I want my dream back is what I was screaming… suddenly I was back into the dream...only now it was more real to life than everything.

I woke up out of a dream in a dream. Only to find out that the dream which I was dreaming was actually a reality. But the fact that I did not want to wake up out of that particular dream made me feel that reality and present is much better than what it was 3 years back.